Dr. West



Totally Messed Up

By Religious Guilt

From e-mail

       From a very early age I was taught that the female body was sinful to look at and that I should look away rather than have sinful feelings.

I fought that battle within myself every day.

...Since women represented something sinful, my sexual feelings were directed to homosexual experiences, and then to a number of bad sexual perversions, which I don't want to go into.

...I'm past middle age and I've never been able to have a relationship with a woman, which means that I've been robbed of the joy of experiencing a family.

At this point things are a mess and seem to be getting worse. 

I have strong sexual needs, but since I'm also drowning in feelings of sin about them, the whole thing seems like it's getting away from me....

       We often get letters of this general type, but most are not quite as consequential in their implications.

I would strongly recommend that you see a therapist or mental health professional.

It sounds as if you may still be within the influence of some strong conservative religious views and you don't need to experience any more guilt. I would recommend that you look outside of this influence for professional help.

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