I Do It For My Husband
Based on email from a wife
One night when
my husband and I were in the middle of having sex, he asked, "Do you ever think of another man when we make love?"
That's one of those landmine questions, so I turned it around.
"Do you ever think of another woman?"
"Not really, but I sometimes think of you with another man; in
fact I think about it a lot."
I had no idea where this was going;
I thought my husband was the
jealous type. "Why?"
"I think you would enjoy it and it turns me on to think about it."
"But it wouldn't if I really did it."
My husband said, "I think you would like it."
"What would that do to us?"
He said, "Spice things up."
"You're saying you want me to have sex with another man?"
He said, "Yes, and then tell me
all about it."
This was new territory. "Do you have someone in mind?"
"I can tell Charlie has the hots for you (he was at a recent
backyard gathering where I was wearing my ragged red, V-neck halter top), why
not start with him?"
"If it isn't good you could try someone else."
I said, "Are you trying to get rid of me?"
"I want to spice up our relationship."
"By having me sleep with other men!"
"How long have you been thinking about this?"
"A long time. I want you to do it, like it--it's important
that you like it."
"What if I like it more than the sex we have?"
"You might, but it would just be for sex and we have an
eight-year marriage and two kids, so I don't think you would leave that."
But I really don't want to have sex with anyone else."
"You might like it if you tried it."
After a few days my husband said, "I talked to Charlie and I
think he's going to ask you out for a drink."
"My God, you are serious. What did he say?"
"He said he would ask you out and see how it goes."
Well, to cut
to the chase, after an awkward phone conversation, I went over to Charlie's and
since my husband had basically promised him he would get lucky, we ended up in his
I didn't especially want to and it wasn't especially good sex,
but I knew my husband would want to know if we did it, so we did.
My husband got really turned on hearing about it, and we had
(for us) wild sex for several nights. He said, "I keep thinking about you
putting out to Charlie."
I didn't want to see Charlie again,
but my husband was intent on this so I mentioned
a guy I used to know in college that kept in touch with me. My husband said, "Go
out with him."
That was a major disappointment because he couldn't get it up.
But I got him off with oral sex. My husband loved to hear about that too.
Then my husband introduced me to a guy at his work accompanied
with subtle references to how I loved sex and would probably be a sure thing.
By then I had figured out how this game was being played so I went out with and had sex with him. It
was a better.
Now my husband
sets me up with men and that turns him on. I guess he would make good pimp and
me a whore, but who cares? It's not boring and it's not like a have some
precious reputation to protect any more.
Word is I'm
pretty good in bed. I guess that comes with experience. So when it comes
to sex I guess I'm better now than I have ever been. And I've been kind of
getting into it.
husband set me up with a black guy at this work. I didn't like it at first, but
he encouraged me to go out with him several times until I got used to it. He's
big and he has me do stuff I never did before.
Now I like sex
more than I ever have, so, despite my title [of this article], I'm really not
doing this for my husband any more.
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